We usually don't make New Year's resolutions that we plan to keep for life. Rather, we plan on keeping them for a few months, unless were really brave and plan to keep them for the whole year!

As the New Year approaches, Weight Watchers and the like start inducing false promises and setting us up to spend a lot of money on that famous resolution -- weight loss.

Here's the scenario: The holidays are over, we've partied and eaten for the past month and a half, now that the new year is here, we can start being "good" again and finally lose that extra weight we've been carrying around.

We get ourselves geared up for that diet -- the one that's finally going to work. We start the diet and promise ourselves that we are really going to be "good" this time, no cheating allowed. The first couple of days go okay. It's hard, but being "good" feels good and reinforces that we have willpower and can control our eating.

After more time passes it gets harder to stay on the diet. We're hungry when we're not 'supposed' to be and the same foods over and over are getting boring. We start feeling tired and irritable, but in the name of weight loss, we believe this is how it must be. We step on the scale each morning hoping to see the number going down. When it does, we resolve to keep dieting because it's working. When it doesn't, we believe we aren't being "good" enough, we have a bad day that day, and we resolve to try harder.

Maybe we lose a couple more pounds, maybe we don't. We start to get discouraged because this time it was supposed to work. If we have lost weight, all of a sudden the weight loss slows down. Eventually we hit that plateau where no matter what we do, we stop losing weight altogether. We get even more discouraged and can't believe we failed again.

Why doesn't this ever work? We we're trying to be so "good." We stop dieting and start eating again. In no time, we gain weight back and can just hear everyone saying behind our backs "They just aren't committed enough to do it. If they really wanted to lose the weight, they would." We feel really bad.

This scenario is probably way too familiar for way too many people. Weight loss is always a no-win resolution because it requires dieting. Dieting is what we call it anyway. Our bodies know it as starving and our bodies don't like it at all. Our bodies rebel against starving, that's why diets don't work.

What alternatives are there for New Year's resolutions? How about resolutions you can make and keep for life that have nothing to do with dieting, but can perhaps help you reach a healthy weight in the long run. These are resolutions that require you to take care of yourself from the inside out. They can also be fun, relaxing, soothing, calming, nurturing, etc., none of which will ever come from dieting. Here are some examples of healthy resolutions for life:

**Instead of hit-and-miss grocery shopping when you're starving and have no food in the house, plan your meals for the week, make out a grocery list and develop a weekly grocery shopping routine.

**Schedule time each month with a friend(s) so you are sure to get together. Don't rely on "I'll call you..." because in our hectic lives it often doesn't happen. Set a monthly date.

**Treat yourself to something you normally don't take the time for -- get a massage, a manicure or a pedicure. Make a standing weekly or monthly appointment.

**Take 30-60 minutes each day to do something you want to do that has nothing to do with taking care of others.

**Find three times per week to move your body.  Take a yoga class, walk with coworkers during a break, dance with your children, take one of the many classes offered for free on Exercise TV On Demand, etc.

The Healthy Weight Journal presented a series of articles exposing four common beliefs about dieting.  The series was entitled 'Exploding the Myth,' and these are the biggest four myths that top researchers in the field of eating and weight disorders explored:

1.  Dieting makes you healthier

2.  Dieting makes you thinner

3.  Dieting makes you happier

4.  Dieters eat less than non-dieters

Does weight loss really make you healthier?

We often hear from medical professionals that we should lose weight to prevent diabetes, heart attacks, high blood pressure, etc. Many studies have addressed the benefits of weight loss on these types of medical problems.

Research studies usually look at short-term improvement in health while the research participants are still in the restrictive dieting phase.  During this phase, improvements in health are often recognized and this has led to the conclusion that weight loss improves health.

However, many long-term and follow-up studies show that continued dieting and weight loss lead to deterioration in health, detrimental effects on health and no beneficial effect on health even when weight loss is maintained.  Even with these poor results, weight loss is still usually considered the first line of treatment.  Almost 20 years ago, the New England Journal of Medicine noted that "tradition, as opposed to scientific evidence" influences dieting prescriptions.

Does dieting really make you thin?

According to the authors of this article, "unfortunately, dieting is a notoriously ineffective means of permanent weight loss." A recent update by the National Institutes of Health (NIH) reports that no major advances in obesity treatment have been found and that dieting and the new weight loss medications continue to produce short-term weight loss and long-term weight gain.

Diets (not the dieters) typically fail for two reasons.  First, the body naturally defends against weight loss because the body naturally defends against starvation (dieting).  Second, diets fail because episodes of starvation lead to episodes of overeating.

Those who are always dieting or feel they should be dieting become highly critical of their own food choices.  If they feel they have eaten something "bad," they often revert to what has been labeled the "what the hell" effect. At this point the dieter believes the diet has been broken, so continues to eat in a rebound fashion to make up tor the period of starvation.  Although calories are restricted temporarily, episodes of overeating sabotage the diet and are likely to contribute to weight gain.

Does dieting really make you happier?

In addition to losing weight and improving health, another typical goal of dieting is to feel better about oneself.  Dieters usually feel bad about their bodies and as a result of this, feel bad about themselves.

When weight loss occurs at the beginning of a diet, the dieter gets excited and feels good, may receive compliments and may have to buy smaller sized clothing.  These results raise the dieter's expectations and reinforce the notion that more improvements in appearance will create more happiness the longer food is restricted.

As the diet continues, weight loss slows down, "cheating" occurs and the initial expectations of what weight loss would bring get dashed.  Failure to lose "enough" weight often leads to loss of hope and then the diet is abandoned.  When a dieter's hopes are dashed and weight gain occurs, self-image declines and leads to the same thing that initiated the diet -- feeling bad about oneself.

Do dieters really eat less than non-dieters?

The intention of dieters is to lose weight and achieving this requires eating less.  This suggests they will then have to eat less than non-dieters.  Many studies have found that dieters typically eat more than non-dieters.  Maintaining complete control over intake appears impossible since the sensation of hunger tends to override the rules of whatever diet a person is on.

When a person is undereating and hungry, it has been shown that minor stressors will trigger overeating.  Dieters are usually able to maintain their diets as long as no stressors are encountered.  But, when faced with stress (and who isn't?)  overeating occurs.  As a result, even though dieting, dieters end up consuming more calories than non-dieters who aren't as likely to turn to food when stressed.

Before you start that diet because you want to be healthier, thinner or happier, or when you wonder why you're gaining weight and your non-dieting friend isn't, consider these myths.  Dieting as we know it really doesn't work.